Why You Should Listen To People You Disagree With

May 31, 2018

Everyone has a different background and therefore different outlook on life at least to some degree. This therefore naturally leads to different opinions on a myriad of subjects or issues. This means you are bound to disagree with those of a different view or school of thought but doesn’t mean you should be enemies or avoid interacting with them. As a matter of fact, you should more than grant them an audience, we should engage them.

By engaging in opposing views opinions and stands, you can certainly find common ground. Even if not with the speakers themselves, then you can interrogate the thoughts they hold, the principles they stand for and the people they may attract with the said opinions.

Good listening skills

This calls for primary engagement skills like being a good listener, having good temperament when coming in contact with infuriating sentiments and giving the other party enough time to finish what they want to say.

This in essence does a couple of things; shows the other person that you value their opinion. It also shows them that you treat them as an equal and that they are worth your time. You connect with the person on a deeper level. Empathetic listening almost always does half the work as far as connecting goes.

Open your mind

Go to any conversations with an open-mind. You will learn a lot from the conversations if you have an open mind and you are willing to learn from the other party, as Momcrib.Com suggests.

It calls for maximizing the value of exchange between the individual willing to engage in an honest conversation. By doing so, you both get to question your premises and how you got to where you are in terms of belief, religion and even behavior. When you truly start listening to people, you get to put yourself in their shoes and start to understand where they are coming from.


You start to empathize with what they are saying. If the person begins to get emotional while articulating his or her point, it is always inherent that you use methods to deescalate the situation to maintain sanity and rationality to the argument.

After granting the other person a hearing, you will too be granted your time, as people will feel the need to reciprocate after feeling that they were respected in the first place. This also gives you time to explain your principles from a point of understanding to a willing listener who also in turn will empathize as you had set the platform earlier and in so doing “dictating” the terms of engagement.  You also speak from a point of strength having listened to the issues being presented by the other individual.

Empathetic engagement

This kind of engagement will be of mutual respect with and makes it easier to connect on a human level without the “noise” of imposed religion, economic and social standards set by the environment in which we are born into individually.

By doing so, we will have an empathetic engagement in all our spheres of life, as not all disagreements have to end up with each one of us having bad blood.

In the event that you end up not agreeing at all, it need not end up being in bad faith, as you can always agree to disagree but with empathy and understanding.

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